Saturday, August 28, 2010

Staying Single Forever

There was a long time when I was really into finding someone to be with. I did have a marriage that was fun for a while, but then when I didn't turn into a millionaire fairly quickly, it fell apart. 

I've had short term girlfriends and even serious relationships, but they never last for long. I've noticed that I seem to attract the high-powered career chicks. We have a good time, enjoy good wine, have great sex, and then they get really demanding. I find out something like....
  1. Her child or children are much more important than I could ever be.
  2. Her child is a monster who will make a false accusation against you for any reason.
  3. Her pets are more important than you are, and deserve far more attention than you.
  4. She hates all your clothes and wants to take you shopping to spend your money on new clothes.
  5. She hates video games, zombie movies, electric guitars, etc. and wants you to have all new hobbies.
  6. She won't allow you to drink alcohol at all.
And then I end the relationship. When they find someone they really like, they do everything they can to change him.  Then after the guy has made all these changes, they don't like him anymore. 

If you want a great experience with women, have a lot of relationships, but don't let them last for any length of time. Remember, women have their own money and their own power as heads of households. You can't tell her what to do, or even run your own life.  It has to be whatever she wants to do, and however she wants you to be.  If you have short term relationships, you get all the "falling in love" time with hot sex and new experiences.  Then you quit the relationship when she starts to take command and you have to get in line behind her family, children, pets, friends, job, hobbies, and whatever else.  Why be her bitch?  Why not just enjoy her as a real man for the first three months, then leave?  

Being single means you don't have to do chores she wants, or help her get over that guy who hit her and cheated on her - but she still loves.  Being single means you have your own place to be left in peace when you don't want anyone around.  It means you can choose when you want her around, and when you want someone new.  You'll be happier, you won't get destroyed when the breakup comes, and there will be much more time for what you want to do. 

Friday, August 27, 2010

Don't Get Married

Not that I'm some lonely bachelor who never thought about it. I did get married.  I had about seven good years before it had to end. My ex is just like all the women I meet. Money is everything.  They love watching the Housewives of the OC, or New Jersey, or whatever.  They watch the Kim Kardashian show and wish their lives were the same.  They don't want to work unless it is something very easy.  They want to be stars of their own lives, have men worship them, and have no real responsibility. 

I was the one who filed for divorce. My ex was shocked and argued things out for a few months, but in the end, she signed and we split up.  She did raid our accounts and got about half of our joint savings. 

Since my divorce, I realized that as bad as my ex was (very little communication, greed, ignoring me), she was about average.  Lots of women are leaving their husbands out of boredom, need for a change, or simply because they are looking for a guy with more money. 

I've dated a lot and racked up a lot of sex partners, and the women are very similar. They've given too much to really rotten guys, or dumped good guys for financial reasons.  I think feminism, our popular consumer culture, and the rising economic power of women has led women to abandon their values.  Every woman is doing the Sex & The City thing these days. It's pretty sad, but that's life.  I did find that once I stopped all the romantic/falling in love bullshit, I really started being happy about being with women. If the majority of these women aren't serious about any guy but a rich playboy, then I don't mind being their temporary guy.

For younger guys, I cannot recommend getting married.  I know guys don't like being with a slut, and having one girl to yourself is really a special thing, but it really doesn't exist any more.  If you are with a good girl, don't marry her.  Have sex, have fun, and have that romantic love experience, but it does not last.  Women get bored. They see their friends out there poking lots of guys and they start wondering what that life was like.  I've seen women in ten year marriages get a divorce, then on the first date after divorce, allow some guy to get them drunk and fuck them.  Guys are interchangeable.  Men have women in their lives who are very special to them, but women just want a guy, any guy to be with them. If he has a smile and a dick, they are sold. If he also has money, then he is a longer term prospect. 

I'm off to have fun and drink tonight now that it's 10:30pm on a Friday night.