Saturday, October 23, 2010

Stand them Up

There are some really funny stories out there about guys who get suckered into dates with women who are trying to scam them, women who are over 400 lbs, women who are still fucking some other guy.

My question is: If you are such a great catch, why are you dating the worst possible choices?

I've stood up a few women when I went to meet them and saw what they were. I've left at least 3 women waiting for me while I drove off. Don't do this "be nice, do the right thing" bullshit. If you have a date with someone who is playing games or lying to you at all, you need to leave immediately.

  1. If you show up for a date and the girl is much older than her photo, get back in your car and leave.
  2. If you meet the girl somewhere and she is obviously distracted or is only meeting you out of some sense of obligation, get in your car and leave.
  3. If she is fatter than you were told, or completely not interested in dating, just leave her there.
Women date for entertainment as well as for sex or relationships. They will date lots of guys just to have someone pay for dinner. If she is dishonest with you, don't go through with the date!

I've seen horror stories online about guys showing up and being completely victimized by women. They find themselves stuck with some fat hog, or having to pay for a babysitter, or some such shit. Nobody has a gun to your head forcing you to sit there with someone who lied about her age, her size, or her situation.

Never let a woman take advantage of you like this. There are plenty of women who are alone and professional. Date up. Always date women who have their own job and preferably own their own homes. Never date some basket case who needs a rescuer after she's fucked and sucked every guy in four states. Even if you are dead broke and have legal troubles, always date up.

Remember, she has no respect for you anyway, so don't sit there on a date being nice if you don't have to.

What's All the Fuss About?

There are about 200 sites online, mostly free blogs, of guys who are complaining about women who sleep around and then try to snag a successful guy later in life. They call them "Ameriskanks" or "used holes" or some other slur, but that isn't important.

Lots of guys and girls sleep around, it's just a fact of life these days. The further you go down on the social ladder, the more fucking around you are going to see. 

The problem is that these complaining guys want a relationship. They might have had mothers who weren't sluts, or had a loving and supportive mother in the home they grew up in. That is what they were looking for in the dating scene. Well, those days are long gone. Men and women are equal now, thanks to Labour and Democrats. We are all leftists with no spiritual or traditional hangups. That means men don't care and women have no real need for men. This is why we are mostly just screwing around and getting by. Relationships mean less, we don't care about building a better society, and the magic of life is dying off.

So much for the social commentary...

Getting back to the guys who complain about women. What you have to realize is that you have no hope in today's culturally modernized society. If you aren't out there being a narcissist and fucking everyone you can, you are pretty much sitting on the sidelines while everyone else is having fun. If you ever do meet a woman who wants what you want, you will have to accept a former party girl as your mate. You will have to accept that you'll be with someone who fucks anyone just for fun, but will make you wait for sex for months. 

Don't commit. Don't do it. Don't move in together. Don't have a child with her. Why should you treasure the intimacy you had to work for, when she handed it out like candy to guys who didn't even like her?

There was a great Mike Adams column on this a few months ago. A woman who had slept with boyfriend after boyfriend was unhappy and wondered what a traditional approach would be like. Mr. Adams suggested the woman stop having sex outside of marriage and press for a commitment before sex. The girl ended her current relationship and started searching for a "nice guy" who had values and was waiting for marriage before having sex. They dated for an entire year, getting engaged somewhere along the way, then only having sex on the wedding night.  The couple were "so happy" they waited to have sex and were enjoying a traditional marriage.

What's wrong with this picture?

The problem is that all women are doing this. Almost 100% of Western women are sleeping around before meeting their husbands. They don't want to wait for sex. It's the men who are romantic; the men who wanted to have the happy wedding night; the men who waited for a good girl. 

Guys, this is just reality. Here are the rules:
  1. Women are easily pulled into popular culture. If all their friends and media heroes are fucking around, they will do the same thing regardless of the consequences.
  2. Women will start having sex with different guys just for the experience. They don't care that this makes them far less attractive to guys who will wait for someone special.
  3. Women will jump in bed within the first three dates with any guy who is ready to fuck. If you are ready for a relationship, guys, she will make you wait up to six months for sex.
  4. Women see men as disposable. I've seen great relationships end just because the guy didn't earn enough, or fell on hard times. Money is everything.
  5. Chivalry and even decency are dead with women. Your traditional bullshit spells racist, abuser, old fashioned.  Being casual and not caring is seen as desirable.
Don't be depressed or isolating. Enjoy women for what they are, but forget about the old ways. They are gone forever.



Sunday, October 17, 2010

Destroying the Habitat

Since women became liberated and started making all the rules, they have changed the language to suit the agenda. They look at things in ways that make men look stupid or foolish, then assume this is the way every issue in life should be approached. 

If a man is deeply spiritual and works at living a moral life, he is really immature and uses religion as a crutch. He probably isn't sure about his sexuality.

If a man needs some personal space simply to enjoy a hobby or catch some football in the den, then he is running away to hide in his pathetic man cave instead of being mature and hanging out with the girls. 

If a man wants to enjoy riding motorcycles or driving a sports car, then he is really having a midlife crisis or  refusing to grow up as he should. 

Just about every feature of modern secular life is taken from a female perspective. It's nothing anyone can change, and will have to work itself out in time. This happened in the old Roman Empire. Women became equal, then above men in culture; not as leaders in fact, but cultural and social leaders. To solidify their power over their own men, they entered into political/social alliances with barbarians, homosexuals and radical religious sects. With so much working against the men of Rome, they of course naturally started to give up leadership - in the home, in government, etc. Eventually, the silliest people were running things, taxes skyrocketed on producers and layabouts got all the benefits. Sound like what is going on now?




Saturday, October 16, 2010

Doing it Her Way

Sure relationships are more difficult now, but shouldn't men just "step up" to the challenge, and not be afraid to share leadership with women?  Are men so weak they are afraid of a little tiny weak woman?  

Well, you know that women are equally as strong as men in many areas, but they are much better at playing fucked up social systems than men are. Women see sex roles as a battlefield. They are always fighting to get their way, and have no idea that you might have another perspective. 

That is why your weekly television watching will include little or no football. That is why you will know everything about the Kardashians, but nothing about new Zombie movies. That is why you will go out to eat for almost every meal and then go clothes shopping with her, and you better be enthusiastic!

Why not just stay in and read a book?  Sure, we can do that together! Let's read The Bridges of Madison County, or The Secret Life of Bees!  What? you don't want to read one of these women's books about women and women's feelings? Why are you threatened?

This is why more men would rather just fuck when they can and live alone. The pleasure is rarely worth the long term sacrifice in sanity. If you commit to a woman, you are committing to her way of thinking in all things; committing to her tastes, her whims, her family, everything. Nothing is yours; nothing is yours to decide or even give input.

It's a woman's world and they've come a long way, baby. Let them rule their little castles. Visit them for sex or a good time, but don't live with them or commit. If you do, you will be expected to behave exactly like her; or like a girlfriend or a gay friend. It happens in 99% of relationships.  You are expected to give up all the masculine things that make you what you are, and become a clone of her. It's no fun, so don't fall for it - and it can be expensive to escape from.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Nice Guy vs. Confused Girl Debate

Reading the news this morning, I happened to find myself on FARK.com which is a good place to kill half an hour or so. The news items are mixed with funny comments and sometimes - sometimes, it can turn into an interesting debate. This morning, the big post was about women spending their youth on crappy guys then suddenly wanting a nice guy later in life. A typical post went something like this:

Let me make this clear :
Nice guys don't want the girl 'in the end'. in the end? After she's blown you off for years? After she's defiled herself with jerks ? After she's grown fat and spongy? After she's suffered hip and nerve damage?
No. Nice guys, like all guys, want the girl to like us FIRST. In the morning of your womanhood, when they're still shy and love is still mysterious and lovely. When they're still excited about this big adventure called life ... We want them to look at us and be besotted with a deep, pure, abiding affection mixed with lust that they squander on guys with muscles, money or danger. We want them to be excited about dating, having sex with, and marrying someone fun, charming, witty, reliable, respectful and courteous.
But most women squander their first 15 years of adult womanhood, ruining their health, their complexion, their hair, their bodies, hearts and minds playing stupid games with people that they don't really want to be with forever, or chasing after men who will either kill them or dispose of them. They Get Tats, stretch marks, overcolor their hair (because it's 'fun' to be a blonde for 500$).
So, ladies. Screw you all very much. Because by the time you get around to liking us 'nice guys' we've become bitter misogynistic old men who frankly, are just in the mood to manipulate someone younger and prettier than you into casual sex, followed by some mind games because we're still pissed off about how you casually used our affection and friendship while squandering your youth with losers who didn't deserve you. And in the end, when we want kids and a family, you're all used up and no good to anyone for that, no matter how you want it.

I can't say I disagree with all this, but you don't have to be misogynistic.  When you are young, it is vitally important for a guy to be with a girl who hasn't fucked everyone in town. It's a very special thing to be with a virgin girl and have that intense relationship - whether it works out or not. To men, a woman who reserves herself for that one guy is doing almost a "holy" thing whether she realizes it or not. The intimacy is much greater, and the sex is much better. When you are with a young girl who has already fucked and sucked lots of guys, it is far less exciting, far less of a bonding experience. It's just sex for sex's sake and that's all. Women don't realize this, and have this modern take on sex that "everyone does it" so why not just get out there and start experiencing different people?

I'm in the dating scene, but I leave my options open at all times. Virtually every woman I meet takes sex very casually with the bad boys and players, but takes it very seriously with the good guys. They will fuck a bad boy on the second date, but will make a nice guy wait for three months. No matter what the age, women will always prefer the bad boy, will always drop her pants for a high-earning, low-morals guy, as long as she feels flattered and/or hot and bothered.  

They say "Nice Guys Win In the End", which means she will finally give up on her dream of taming a bad boy when she wants a mate who will share in the raising of children, and has a good income. She doesn't really want the nice guy; she wants his earnings and stability. Remember, the guys who care nothing for her get her heart first, get her sex first, get her love and caring and adoration first - and it's just recreation for him. The guy who would have treasured her love and sex has to wait until she's sexually serviced men who care nothing for her. Women don't realize this is the biggest possible turn off for a man. 

I came to accept this early on. I treat women with the same respect I treat other men- but I do not treat them like virgin queens. I know they usually give the best of themselves to men who don't even want to see them again after a six minute fuck. One of the Fark members, a woman, even admits she preferred the jerks most of her life:
I admit, I used to go for the arrogant pretty boys. Married one, even. Then I got to a point where I was very okay with being single till the day I died, just me and my dogs, doin' fine. I never became a bitter man hater - I have too many really good guy friends to think that all men are evil. Then a "nice guy" who I'd known for years (but wasn't "my type") asked me out. I said "sure" figuring he'd be harmless, we'd get a beer, and I'd call it a night. The BEST date of my life, and we got married 6 months later.


In other words, she fucked all the jerks and assholes and decided getting burned and abandoned was as good as it gets. Very reluctantly, she finally after many years decided to date a nice guy, and now he gets to be her 77th sex partner and pay for all the damage the jerks did to her. Wow, sign me up for that!  How do I join that club?!?


You don't have to save the damsel-slut-in-distress. She doesn't want you now, and she didn't want you then, but the players had fantastic sex with her, and she always came back for more.  When she completely gave up on men, she was ready to settle with a loser...I mean, nice guy.  It doesn't have to be this way. I don't live that way, and decent men shouldn't either.


I get into short term relationships, jump into two-week sex romps with girls I don't really know, etc. I don't care whether they fall for me or not. Since my divorce in 2004, I've had four serious relationships and lots of temporary partners. In 100% of these hook-ups and relationships, the women talked about exes too much, had too much experience, and were desperately looking for a guy to take care of them. It wasn't that I was looking for the wrong kind of woman, it's just that women these days over the age of 30 are identical. 

Jane had a friends-with-benefits thing going on for about 11 years with a guy before he suddenly dumped her and married someone else. We were great together, and we got very close, but the hook-up guy was just too important to her, and she talked about him daily. I ended it and moved on.
Laurie was a hyper-Christian type and we had hot sex and lots of fun together, but she wanted a baby immediately and was still hung up on her preacher at church. It was only an emotional connection, but he had her heart while I only had her body. Usually, that's enough for me, but I didn't want to compete with the pastor of her church. I ended it and moved on.
Abby was a great girl and we had a ton of fun together; parties, drinking, going out, etc. We lived together but her ex-fiance was always chasing her; always calling, always coming by, sending her letters and cards, etc. She loved the attention and talked about how much she missed certain things about him. I ended it and moved on.

Most of my relationships are like this. None of the 15 women I've poked in the last six years have been completely there for me. They are all either doing the Sex & The City thing, or enjoying their independence after a divorce. No woman I've met is serious about really giving 100% in a relationship after age 30.  I have had some lonely desperate types stalk me, some fat ex-employees who called me several times a day for months trying to get a date with me. I never got desperate, and I never developed the hatred for women that some men seem to have. I just enjoy women for sex and companionship and then I move on. I don't want to be controlled, or hear about how great the ex-boyfriends were, or how she is settling with me, but Johnny Herpesdick is such a great guy she is going to try and win him back eventually.

Don't get me wrong, I still love women, but I understand we don't live in a traditional society, so the norms of behavior that used to keep women's extremely bad judgement in line are no longer present. Now women will chase the players and married cheaters all through their lives, and responsible and loving men will be ignored unless they are being used. It's not always true, but it almost always is. 


Still, men are being realistic in this debate while women seem to ignore the nice guys early in life and condemning them later. Yes, there are a lot of good guys out there who sit and wait while all the girls are boning losers with tattoos. A very good take on this comes from a level-headed commenter on Fark:


It depends on the individual, but not everyone has the same social opportunities. Remember this is fark and while the internet is much different in make up these days, places like this are still dominated by guys in technical careers. This means years in school with few women, workplaces with few women, etc and so on. It also means a lot of time at work because of the demanding nature of the professions. (Way too many engineers are married to women they met in school or at work/because of work.)

This kind of intelligence and hard work would have made a man a could catch for women earlier ages as per the long term ability to provide for children etc as mentioned in the article, but today that really doesn't matter so much. People are trained as consumers and don't really look that far ahead. There are social safety nets, relying on parents, etc and so on. It's considered a time to screw around...to go for fun, to go for what is novel and exciting.

The rift between someone who spent their 20s partying and someone who spent them working could build a resentment, one that can only be aggravated when those women who were consumers of the dating world in their teens and 20s grow up to a degree and then come looking but now with all the costs associated with their earlier choices. It's kind of like handing the bill to a party to the guy who wasn't invited.



Of course the best advice came at the end:


Nice Guys: Don't ever...ever listen to a woman's relationship advice. They have no idea what they want and make notoriously bad decisions. The quickest way to not get laid is to take their romantic advice.

Be confident. Its a numbers game. There's plenty of women out there. Go find yours and quit sitting around waiting for it. Women typically want to be pursued. Its in their lizard brain.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Why More Men Don't Commit

Everyone has had the experience of something being more tiresome because of the people involved. A job that was 65% coping with the boss, and a much smaller percentage of actual work; or, a relationship in which one person did everything and the other person simply complained and caused problems. 

For an increasingly growing percentage of men, the stress is not worth the relationship. This is because women are taught that their needs and emotions come first, and men's considerations are not important. Since we are taught in the West that men are violent, racist, sexist oppressors, then they need to be disempowered and relegated to second-class status. This means men have much less authority, and are often attacked or ridiculed when they attempt to take up the leadership role which is their birthright.

Even after a decade of blowback against feminist extremes, the march toward sex role confusion continues full-throttle. Men are either laughed at or ignored. So, they commit less, simply talking women into bed when they feel the need for some companionship. Those who foolishly allow themselves to be locked into a relationship realized the fun ends the moment the relationship becomes established. There are thousands of stories on the Internet of men's disappointment and women's increasing dissatisfaction with men.  Examples:

Jim moved in with Abby. They had great chemistry and lots of fun together. Jim had an indoor cat, and Abby thought it would be a good idea to let the cat outside. Jim had never let the cat out, so he realized there could be a problem. Abby let the cat out again and again. Many days were wasted looking for the cat around the neighborhood. Finally, Jim got angry and insisted the cat not be let outside. Abby of course ignored Jim's wishes and the cat was eventually run over by a car. Abby apologized and apologized, but that wasn't the point. The issue was that Abby's opinions were more important than Jim's rules.

Terry and Kate got married and were happy for a year. At the end of the first year, Terry's parents passed away within three months of each other. It was a very difficult time for Terry as he was an only child and took his parent's passing very hard. During the time right after losing his parents, Kate moved her sister into the couple's home, saying it was only temporary. The sister ended up living with Terry and Kate for years, and the stress and divided loyalties of Kate eventually broke up the marriage. During the time Terry needed Kate the most, she decided to take care of her sister instead of her husband.  All her friends couldn't understand Terry's insensitivity, and didn't even notice Kate neglecting him during a very difficult time.  

Sandy had never been lucky in love. She would find someone who was really a good match for her, then things would fall apart, or the guys would cheat on her. She thought all guys were pigs, all the same, and none of them could be trusted. However, she never told anyone that she had some bad habits. When she was with a guy, she would talk about other men and having sex with other men. She never learned that this kind of talk was a huge turnoff to about 99% of men. So, the guys didn't respect her and would dump her after a few weeks or a few months. 

You see, men don't commit anymore because women make themselves too unattractive as partners. If you really do want to spend all your free time watching women's movies, or hanging out with her friends, then go ahead and commit to a relationship. If you want your house to reflect her tastes, and her tastes only, then go ahead and commit.  The happy men, the men who enjoy women, basically pick them up and fuck them for a few weeks before moving on. 

We aren't threatened that women have had other men in their lives. We aren't threatened that they have jobs and have their own homes and assets. We just don't have a place in a committed relationship if it means we are no longer allowed any leadership at all. We don't have a place if our feelings and needs are laughed at or ignored. We just aren't going to commit unless the situation for us is desirable. These days, commitment means no personal space, no individual freedom. Commitment means you are a slave tied to a woman; and her progressive/feminist/you can have-it-all attitude means you are only a paycheck or an accessory. Women are saying it more and more; men come and go, but friends are forever.  Ironically enough, the men who only drop in temporarily on a woman are the ones who are happiest with their relationships, and actually have time to live their own lives.  The ones who commit are miserable, or paying off the divorce/child support machine for many years.

And people wonder why men won't commit...


Wednesday, October 6, 2010

East vs. West

Our leaders in the West are increasingly either politically progressive, or embracing Islam. There is a growing swathe of elitists in Western Europe who have converted to Islam; seeing that faith as the wave of the future. And why not? There is no hope for the West.

The point has been made about Europe killing itself with collective guilt and multiculturalism. It is said that there is something inherently evil in the European psyche. Nationalism, Communism, Fascism; all of these things are said to flow from Christianity and nativist nationalism.  Give me a break. Human nature is the same everywhere. No one group of people is better or worse than another. It is systems that can be good or evil. Systems of slavery, communism, Islam and the like are evil systems that crush the human spirit. Systems of limited government and freedom of worship are the more ideal systems because they give individuals the freedom to improve one's lot in life.

Much has been written about how increasing government destroys the nuclear family as well as the values of the West.  Simply put, Western women are incredibly empowered. They have advantages in education, professional life, and of course hold all the cards under family law. Meanwhile men are dropping out of public life to a large degree. 

In the West, women don't need their men aside from being either an accessory or a paycheck. Parenting? Forget it; our enlightened elites say women do a better job of parenting on their own. There are even highly respected books teaching us that two lesbians are better than a heterosexual couple when it comes to raising a child. 

The point..the reason men are here is slowly eroding. The Western man is not the legitimate head of the household; not morally, legally or socially. Women are either exact equals or insist on taking charge. I know this statement will be challenged, but one only has to look at the evidence. More and more men are eschewing marriage and cohabitation. More men are opting for suicide or breaking bad, trying anything just to stay afloat financially in a rapidly changing workforce which demands more conformity and femininity. Men are moving away from religion, government and family involvement. At the same time, women are empowered and gaining ground. 

The State grows stronger and takes over more and more of the roles men are supposed to fill. The State is the protector of the family, and the guarantor of employment or benefits to women. Children are protected and educated by the State. Safety and equality are emphasized, not freedom or opportunity. A stifling, post-modern soft liberalism combined with a complete negation of male roles is killing the masculine in Western men. In Europe where this has run its course, most men are vaguely feminine if not completely homosexual in manner and speech. Women aren't challenged, or the men are destroyed. 

The response to this has been predictable. Men are walking away where they aren't wanted, and tolerating this new women's world just enough to get sex or avoid solitude. Most men adopt a non-committal approach to women and keep women in their lives at arms length. This means 90 day relationships or engagements that stretch out for years. Men have learned the hard way that commitment and loyalty means you become "owned". With becoming owned, you lose all your personal space and your interests drop away. No more drinking, very little football, and the interests of the couple supersede the interests of the man - all the time in every way. Not complying with this complete and total domination leads to break-ups, threats, or long-term grudge matches. 

This doesn't exist in more traditional cultures. Men are leaders and pretty much rule their homes. The opinion of some social worker doesn't dictate how the family dynamic is expressed. Government preferences don't rule the workplace. Of course none of this is new. The Chinese went through a similar liberalization about 400 years ago. Western traders were astonished at the immorality and lack of masculinity in the population at Chinese port cities. One hundred years later, that immoral culture was crushed. Likewise, the Weimar Republic in Germany was so progressive and immoral that the blowback took Germany all the way to extreme fascism. Societies don't survive long when they work against human nature, and against the natural leadership of men.  

This reality has led many social observers to believe that democracy isn't viable in the long term. If those who have no economic stake in the nation are allowed to vote, they will always vote themselves more government. They will always vote to destroy the traditions and install those committed to this effort into office. 

Personally, I find it interesting to watch. Political leaders, religious folk, all of them are worried about men not measuring up, about boys doing terribly in school, about young men in the workplace with no skills and no confidence.  Oh no! There aren't enough marriageable men!  All of the women are now in the workplace with their own money, opinions and political power; why aren't the men now earning double and improving themselves in every way?!?

Well, you take men's domains and make them all frilly and feminine, and they will withdraw. Tell a man he is only worth the paycheck he draws and he doesn't have much reason to live. Institutionalize these ideas, and men will do the bare minimum in society to get by - because they no longer have a stake in society.  It's not like this in the East which is why China, India and the Middle East are going to rise, and rise fast.  Here in the West, we've not only negated men's proper roles, we're laughing at men while they try to find roles that don't warrant constant criticism or attack. 

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Ending Masculinity in the West, Celebrating it in the East

The point has been made many times that Europe has lost confidence. Endlessly apologizing for the sins of their great-grandparents and teaching their children that all brown and poor people are infinitely better...

No pride in Western accomplishment; no pride in social justice. 

This is most evident in Sweden, where the left and vocally political women are out to destroy what is desirable about masculinity. Swedish parents dress their boys in pinks and yellows, teach them to be submissive and weak, and always seeing other cultures as superior. As these boys grow up, they have no pride in being Swedish, and often indulge in homosexual experimentation, or retain some manhood and have to go overseas to find a partner who isn't a man-hating lesbian. 

Swedish culture is merely where all Western cultures are headed. The West has come to believe that women's feelings, shopping, travel, and going out for expensive dinners is the highest form of Western culture. Of course, add multiculturalism and a raw hatred for White men's masculinity, and your values-system is complete. 

In the East, which is to say in Islam, hatred of White men, Christians and Secularists is endemic. Western liberal White women celebrate the rage of the Islamic hordes and find adoption of Islam and marriage to Islamic men completely acceptable. The only bad men are White men. The only oppressive men are Christian men.

Our leftist cultural leaders are succeeding with the masses, but failing with the genuine men. Truly masculine men are turning invisible. They are leaving feminine countries, or becoming undercover men. They will not become hapless gay men, or lowly drones. They are finding their own way, outside the system, and will not kneel to Islam. It is true that there are no real women for these men, but the sexual freedom of Secular women means this isn't really necessary in the short-term. 

Islam will continue for a very long time, but secularism and atheist humanism will fall. It's most diehard advocates will fall first. Those in the silent but invisible resistance, will last the longest, or will simply leave the idiots to the mess they've created.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Breaking Up is Hard to Do (?)

I have been reading about the divorce statistics. It's interesting that women are called gold-diggers and parasites, and then prove it by divorcing their husbands when the gravy train runs dry. Apparently, the recession is ending more relationships than a horny mailman. 

In my city, we have a section known for having nice houses and upscale shopping. It's filled with those McMansions that everyone hates, but women have to have. There are ambulances in there day and night picking up the dead bodies of the men who couldn't keep up. The mortgage payments are late; the credit cards are maxxed out, and the fights are constant. How come the market is slow? Why can't you get a job? What are you, worthless?  If I would have known about this I never would have married you!

So much for richer-poorer, eh? The suicide rate has crept up and people are worried. The economy is going to be strangled and people know it. Government workers are quietly enjoying the ride, but it won't last forever. Relationships built on expectations of absolute joy and wealth are not the kinds of relationships to have. It seems like everyone is becoming a fair weather friend with no interest in the long-term.

I live on my own and work on my own, so a struggling economy isn't a concern to me. I adapt, and move on. During the high season, you work selling luxury items or mortgages. During the low season, you sell mortgage relief and debt resolution. It's the smart thing to do, but not everyone can do it. When they cannot adapt, they start drinking...or fighting, or avoiding the issue until the savings are gone. If it happens on a large enough scale, society starts to break down. 

At my office, I know at least four women who are single and looking for a new man. Typically, they want a guy who is very wealthy and has a wonderful house that needs a woman's touch. This guy will look like a movie star and spend like a drunk, and of course be crazy about this woman he's just met. The reality is very different. All four of the women I can name who divorced for economic reasons have discovered that the single men out there are no better than the husband they left behind. 

Here's an example: 
Carrie's husband Jeff owned and operated his own barbecue supply store. He earned about $90,000 a year and owned their home outright as it was given to him when his parents passed. His income was enough for a happy life, and Carrie didn't need to work. One day at a baby shower, Carrie met Liz. Liz was the wife of a very wealthy Real Estate developer. She ignored her husband, yet spent money lavishly and traveled often. Carrie became very envious of Liz's lifestyle and put much thought into how she could have such a life. Then it dawned on her...she absolutely must get a divorce from Jeff, and find a much more appropriate husband.  

Two years later, Carrie has had short term sexual relationships with six different men and is trying to win back the attention of her former husband. She discovered that her husband was actually more successful and desirable than most of the single men in the dating pool. Sadly, she had done too much damage to her relationship with her ex-husband, so now she lives in a small apartment and tries to rebuild her life and find a good relationship. 

Remember, Carrie is one of four women I know who made this mistake. 

Clearly people don't take marriage seriously, but there are a lot of cultural influences that lead women to make such crappy decisions. Most of women's television is focused on women living privileged lives. The Kardashian family drama is a celebration of women enjoying a work-free and carefree life. Other programs such as the "housewives" series, tell the stories of women living in such luxury that they have to create pointless drama simply to give their lives meaning.  It's no wonder men are walking away from women and simply leading a single life. Why be anything more than a player or a douchebag when 99.99% of women are behaving as if men are simply an accessory to be discarded at will? Why bother being part of the drama when clearly, it's all about her?

Clapton

Friday, October 1, 2010

Lars Vilks

Lars Vilks is a Swedish artist who dared to draw this sketch of Muhammad as a dog. Of course, he's gotten death threats from our tolerant Muslim friends and has had to cancel public appearances as a result. Isn't it time Western men stood up for Western men? This isn't half as bad as what has been written or said about Christianity, but nobody is willing to stand up to the Islamic Rage Machine. Perhaps if we all put ourselves out there and insulted Islam as a united Western Civilization, they might have no choice but to open a dialog, or at least back off with the jihad for a while. Who knows?