I have been reading about the divorce statistics. It's interesting that women are called gold-diggers and parasites, and then prove it by divorcing their husbands when the gravy train runs dry. Apparently, the recession is ending more relationships than a horny mailman.
In my city, we have a section known for having nice houses and upscale shopping. It's filled with those McMansions that everyone hates, but women have to have. There are ambulances in there day and night picking up the dead bodies of the men who couldn't keep up. The mortgage payments are late; the credit cards are maxxed out, and the fights are constant. How come the market is slow? Why can't you get a job? What are you, worthless? If I would have known about this I never would have married you!
So much for richer-poorer, eh? The suicide rate has crept up and people are worried. The economy is going to be strangled and people know it. Government workers are quietly enjoying the ride, but it won't last forever. Relationships built on expectations of absolute joy and wealth are not the kinds of relationships to have. It seems like everyone is becoming a fair weather friend with no interest in the long-term.
I live on my own and work on my own, so a struggling economy isn't a concern to me. I adapt, and move on. During the high season, you work selling luxury items or mortgages. During the low season, you sell mortgage relief and debt resolution. It's the smart thing to do, but not everyone can do it. When they cannot adapt, they start drinking...or fighting, or avoiding the issue until the savings are gone. If it happens on a large enough scale, society starts to break down.
At my office, I know at least four women who are single and looking for a new man. Typically, they want a guy who is very wealthy and has a wonderful house that needs a woman's touch. This guy will look like a movie star and spend like a drunk, and of course be crazy about this woman he's just met. The reality is very different. All four of the women I can name who divorced for economic reasons have discovered that the single men out there are no better than the husband they left behind.
Here's an example:
Carrie's husband Jeff owned and operated his own barbecue supply store. He earned about $90,000 a year and owned their home outright as it was given to him when his parents passed. His income was enough for a happy life, and Carrie didn't need to work. One day at a baby shower, Carrie met Liz. Liz was the wife of a very wealthy Real Estate developer. She ignored her husband, yet spent money lavishly and traveled often. Carrie became very envious of Liz's lifestyle and put much thought into how she could have such a life. Then it dawned on her...she absolutely must get a divorce from Jeff, and find a much more appropriate husband.
Two years later, Carrie has had short term sexual relationships with six different men and is trying to win back the attention of her former husband. She discovered that her husband was actually more successful and desirable than most of the single men in the dating pool. Sadly, she had done too much damage to her relationship with her ex-husband, so now she lives in a small apartment and tries to rebuild her life and find a good relationship.
Remember, Carrie is one of four women I know who made this mistake.
Clearly people don't take marriage seriously, but there are a lot of cultural influences that lead women to make such crappy decisions. Most of women's television is focused on women living privileged lives. The Kardashian family drama is a celebration of women enjoying a work-free and carefree life. Other programs such as the "housewives" series, tell the stories of women living in such luxury that they have to create pointless drama simply to give their lives meaning. It's no wonder men are walking away from women and simply leading a single life. Why be anything more than a player or a douchebag when 99.99% of women are behaving as if men are simply an accessory to be discarded at will? Why bother being part of the drama when clearly, it's all about her?
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