Dating Dynamics

I don't agree with the folks who believe you really have to go your own way (MGTOW). It's one thing to drop out of the traditional system. It's much more difficult to be a lifelong bachelor simply looking after yourself and having fewer social connections. People are naturally wired to be in a couple and having families, so it can be difficult to simply drop those desires and drives and simply be a single operator. 

I date, and I also get into relationships now and then. I'm currently single, but I usually get into short-term things and they usually work themselves out since I travel frequently and don't have time to settle down into a family household. When I date, I look for a few things:

• I try to find women who are successful and have their own incomes. Successful women are interested in finding men who rival their income and their status. Since those men are rare, successful women will often have sexual relationships with clean, funny, attractive guys who aren't a good match, but can entertain them. 
• Look for women who take care of their teeth, wear newer clothing, and are somewhat resistant to having sex. If she comes over to your house to watch a movie on the first date, and has her panties off that night, then she's too loose, and the danger of STDs goes up. 
• I use eHarmony or similar sites to find dates. The cheaper the sites, the cheaper the women. Women on eHarmony are looking to have fun, fall in love, and have romantic "love" sex.  These women are usually hard pressed to find dates in bars or through friends as they are looking for magical romances like they see on Lifetime movies. These women will fly out to see you, have sex and then go home without commitment or regrets.  I've had sex with six women from eHarmony and when i'm not in any relationship I keep my membership up.

Remember, it's a Sex & The City world and you can have fun and not commit. Don't keep yourself celibate because it isn't a natural state.  Most men in the dating world are so ill-prepared, you wouldn't think they could ever get a date, but the truth is that if you are half-way functional, you can have all the girlfriends you can handle. 

One of the unspoken truths about sexual liberation is that women don't really want it. They want to be with a man who gives them regular sex. They are interested in being dominated and "owned" by one man. This is part of the natural neurological process that happens to women when they have sex. They are physically designed to be with one man only, which makes it nearly impossible for most women to move past a first husband or a long-term boyfriend. This drive, this longing to be with one special man who is completely devoted - drives women to commit to any man who appears to be ready to give this type of commitment. They will give ten years to a cheater, or twenty years to a wife beater just to have a man.  A horrible man is better than no man. 

Women seem to be more choosy, but they really aren't. The story of the fat nerd hooking up with a hot girl is much more common than you think. If you are assertive and make yourself available, you will have success.